Pure Love

Is it possible to love a life of autumn,

love which has seen the world?
Is it a feeling of something in your life will change,
the gray hair on his temple crept up?

Are you talking to me - smile,
for love is not too late.
The feelings are invalid age,
What the young are different from us?

I know, it warms the heart,
and raises a cheerful smile on his face.
Happiness does not need anything more,
can happen to anyone.

Therefore, let us love my nice,
love which has not seen the world.
About you my dreams still dreamed,
love is beautiful despite the passage of years....

Social media makes forgetting breakups harder

The proliferation of social media has
made getting over a romantic breakup a
bigger chore than in the bygone era,
even though digital photos and emails
can be deleted in no time.
According to a study, ubiquitous digital
records of a once beloved keep lurking
on Facebook, tumblr, and flicker, makes
it difficult to forget painful memories.
Steve Whittaker, a psychology professor
at UC Santa Cruz who specializes in
human-computer interaction, said
people are keeping huge collections of
digital possessions, and there has been
little exploration of the negative role of
digital possessions when people want to
forget aspects of their lives.
In a paper, "Design for Forgetting:
Disposing of Digital Possessions after a
Breakup," Whittaker and co-author
Corina Sas, of Lancaster University,
examine the challenges of digital
possessions and their disposal after a
romantic breakup. Sas worked on the
research as a visiting professor at UCSC.
Digital possessions include photos,
messages, music, and video stored
across multiple devices such as
computers, tablets, phones, and
cameras. Their pervasiveness "creates
problems during a breakup, as people
''inhabit'' their digital space where
photos and music constantly remind
them about their prior relationship, the
study states. In interviews with 24
young people between the ages of 19
and 34, Whittaker and Sas found that
digital possessions after a breakup are
often evocative and upsetting, leading
to distinct disposal strategies.
Twelve of the subjects were deleters;
eight were keepers, and four others
were selective disposers. Disposal is
made more difficult today because
digital possessions are in vast
collections spread across multiple
devices, applications, web-services, and
platforms, the study further states.
Whittaker and Sas propose that
software solutions might help scrub
cyberspace of painful memories, for
instance automatic "harvesting" using
facial recognition, machine learning or
entity extraction.

Virtual vs real friends

A recent survey says people are happier
and laugh 50% more when talking to a
friend face-to-face. So, it's safe to
conclude that virtual friendships don't
count any more
It's the same scenario with most of us.
We have hundreds of — some even have
1,000-plus — friends on social
networking sites, but only a handful of
'real' ones. Real friends whom we hang
out with, share personal details and
spend quality time with. And yet, we
keep chatting with our virtual friends
on social networking sites almost on a
daily basis, instead of nurturing real
friendships.
A recent survey concluded that virtual
friends don't count. People are happier
and laugh 50% more when talking to a
friend face-to-face. Also, people find
that the most satisfying relationships
are with a handful of close friends, with
an 'outer ring' of 10 significant others.
Case in point
Nicole Cyrus, 26, banker, has more than
800 friends on a social networking
website. "I have way too many friends
on my list, but since I don't open up
easily, I have few friends who really
understand me. So, it is important for
me to interact with those friends and I
make it a point to do so. Even if it
wouldn't be a face-to-face interaction, I
make sure I keep in touch," says she.
For instance, Nicole videochats with her
best friend who stays in Australia, at
least once every week, if not more. She
also keeps in touch with other close
friends, via phone. "But yes, I guess
face-to-face interaction is way more
important than just virtual friendship
and relationship," she concludes.
Virtual friends are no substitute for real
ones
Friends on social networking sites
cannot be a substitute for real friends,
says psychologist Mansi Hasan, adding,
"Social networking sites are the easiest
way to keep in touch with those
countless people, who we wouldn't be
able to keep in touch with due to our
busy lives. However, the 'emotional
touch' cannot be easily replaced by
internet chats, comments and posts."
Hasan says research does suggest that
non-verbal and verbal cues both
contribute towards creating a
connection between two people. The
real connection only clicks when we are
able to experience that friendship in
person, otherwise it's like experiencing
a vacation through a virtual tour.
No face-to-face talks on social networking
sites
Clinical psychologist Johann Thomas
also agrees that friends on social
networking sites cannot be a substitute
for real friends. The reason is, no
amount of virtual friendships will ever
prepare us for direct interaction with
others. "It is also possible that most
people who are comfortable making
friends virtually do so because it gives
them an option of avoiding face-to-face
(FTF) contact with others. They are
worried about negative conclusions
being drawn about them in a FTF
meeting where they will not be able to
hide their drawbacks (awkward
mannerisms, speech deficits, language
difficulty, etc.). Typing online also gives
people time to respond, which is a
luxury we don't have in FTF
communications. This lack of time also
reveals our lack of wit and poise in FTF
(which we do not want to be known),"
he explains.
Face-to-face interactions are more
satisfying
According to the study, people are
happier and laugh 50% more when
talking face-to-face with friends or via
webcam than when using social
networking sites. Thomas explains,
"The reason could be that human brain
reads subliminal cues while interacting
face-to-face, which go beyond the
individual reading of gestures, facial
expressions and words. This integration
helps us to better understand what the
others are saying or hiding."
Talking on phone/texting vs sharing a smile
The study also said that talking on the
phone and texting does not make people
feel as good as sharing a smile. "One
reason for this is that the majority of
processing is done by our vision and we
are heavily dependent on sight. Due to
this, we have to rely on seeing the
genuineness of others' affect (outward
expression of internal emotion)," says
Thomas.

Good Morning

Have A Blessed Day Friends :)

Be Honest In Relationship.

Never Cheat in any Relationship , maybe Some day you Gonna Cheat By Someone .

What is Friendship ?

A true friend is someone who sticks by
you when you are down and
celebrates with you when you are up.
It's someone you trust. It is someone
who understands you, knows the real
you and appreciates the person you
are.
1). Sure. There are many types of
relationships and they may be hard to
classify. I have encountered at least 3
different types.
- Situational friends. You see each
other regularly, have fun together,
even share occasional
disappointments. When you move or
something changes, you don't stay in
touch. Ex. : activity and location based
- work, gym, clubs, etc.
- Casual friends. Meet each other once
in a while, go out for lunch and
dinner, catch up on the news/gossip.
You like each other, appreciate the
company. But are are not best friends.
- Close friends. They understand the
real you, help when you're in trouble
and are people you can rely on. They
will not betray you, they let you in
their lives and care about you deeply.
Such people don't come along often
and such relationships are to be
cherished.
2). Mutual understanding, true
appreciation of each other's company
and the desire to stick together
whatever happens.
3). There's no magic solution.
Sometimes relationships disintegrate
or people grow out of them. But if you
don't spend time together, have fun
together and talk (I mean really talk
about your lives, decisions, whatever
is going on), the friendship probably
will not last.
4). It really depends on the person.
Myself, I value loyalty above all
others. I would never let my friends
down, I stick by them and they by me.
5). If you are close with your family
you could. But at some point,
everybody needs a friend.

Have Great Week

Happy new Week.

A new morning means a new beginning, a new struggle, a new endeavor, but with the Lord by our side we can overcome any challenges and turn obstacles into stepping stones. May you enjoy week, stay Blessed.